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Mindfulness and Mindlessness in Love
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Abstract
The study of love is extensive and affects many areas within relationships between individuals. The following paper examines the concepts of mindfulness and mindlessness, as defined by Langerian mindfulness, within the context of love. The objective of this report is to define the differences and similarities between loving mindfully versus mindlessly and evaluate the impact of both types of love within relationships. The process of engaging in mindful love and enhancing the quality of relationships will be explored, as well as how engaging in mindless love results in emotional disengagement, dissatisfaction, and even conflict. The contrast between the healthy effects of mindful love and the detrimental influences of mindless love is ultimately highlighted. Although being mindlessly in love provides the benefit of “ignorance is bliss”, mindful love engages all parties in the relationship, constantly bettering each other for a greater change. Essentially, this research paper emphasizes the significance of mindfulness and mindlessness and highlights their coexistence- not only in love- but also in the aspects of life.
Keywords
mindfulness, mindlessness, love, engaging, relationships
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- Volume Title
- Proceedings of the International Conference on Global Politics and Socio-Humanities
- ISBN (Print)
- 978-1-83558-241-1
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- 978-1-83558-242-8
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- 20 December 2023
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- Communications in Humanities Research
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- 2753-7064
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- 10.54254/2753-7064/23/20230787
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- 20 December 2023
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